Friendship is a relationship that all the individuals can create by themselves. Though it is not a god gifted relationship like that of the relationship of a mother, father, sister, brother or any of the other family but still it is one of the best relations an individual can possess. People who have true friends consider themselves as the luckiest individuals on earth.
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.” – C.S. Lewis.
We do not make friends because they are useful but the bond of friendship, once it grows stronger and stronger has a number of positive aspects. There are certain secrets that can only be shared with our friends only. When we are facing a difficult situation in our lives, only true friends come forward to help us overcome all the difficulties.
Every friend is important and their importance in known to us when certain situations arise which can only be solved by our friends. One can never feel lonely in this world if he or she is surrounded by true friends. On the other hand, loneliness prevails in the lives of those who do not have friends despite of billions and billions of people present in the world. It has been truly said that “A friend in need is a friend indeed.”
Friendship is a beautiful bond by all means but while making friends, it is essential to keep in mind that one should always be aware so as to differentiate between true friends and false friends.
True friends are committed and stand by your side even in the rough phases of your life. False friends on the other hand are truly examined only when difficulties knock your door. Most of them show you their back and join hands with either your enemies or with other successful people. One should always try to maintain a distance from false friends. False friends are those who support you in times when you are rich and famous. As soon as fame and riches leave you alone, false friends also act as if they do not know you; you become stranger in their eyes. It has been said that only a difficult situation in life can make individuals realize who their true friends are and who their false friends are. It is always advisable to stay away from such individuals in order to maintain your peace of mind.
It is extremely essential to be capable of making proper choices in life especially when we are interested in choosing the group of friends we want to support and be with for the rest of our lives. Choosing proper friends is a bit difficult task but not impossible. We should have a group of friends who are disciplined and punctual individuals. This is essential because of the reason that we start becoming like the people we hang out with most. If for example one or two of our close friends are involved in bad habits such as smoking, drinking and taking drugs, sooner or later we will follow suit. This is the reason why it is advisable to make a proper choice when it comes to making friends. True friendship is as a matter of fact a blessing enjoyed by a few. Those who have it should thank God for having true gems in their lives and those who do not have a few good friends should constantly strive for new ways to secure good friends. No company is better than having a friend by your side in times of need. You will remain happy in your one room apartment if you are surrounded by your friends; on the other hand, you cannot find happiness even in your mansion if you are alone.
There are times when your family fails to solve all the problems of your life; you can easily get out of these problems of yours if you are in communication with a few friends.
People who are lucky enough have a group of amazing friends who support them in facing all the hardships and adversities of life. Having a single good friend helps an individual to overcome all the hurdles in his or her lifetime. On the other hand if an individual does not have a single good friend life automatically turns hard. Securing true friendship is extremely essential to become successful in all the areas of life. I pray that everyone everywhere is surrounded by at least one or two good friends throughout their life.
The following lines of a famous poem best describe friendship:
“Best friends stick together till the end,They are like a straight line that will not bend.
They trust each other forever,
No matter if your apart you are together.
They can be your hero and save the day,
They will never leave your side they are here to stay.
They help you up when you fall,
Your true friends are best of all.”
To sum up, it can be said that love, the most amazing feeling on Earth is incomplete if it is not supported by friendship.
The first week of college: otherwise known as the scramble to make friends. Oftentimes friendships generate out of fear of being alone. This anxiety, though, sometimes leads to befriending people you really shouldn’t. The longer you maintain a relationship, regardless of its detrimental nature, the harder it is to escape. Here are some behaviors to watch out for when qualifying someone as a real or fake friend… before it’s too late.
Real: Goes the Extra Mile
It was 3 AM and I had just broken up with my boyfriend. Despite the early hour, my friend managed to pick up my call and console my sobs. As expected, her wise words soothed me to sleep. When I woke up the next morning, I was shocked to see her beside my bed with a warm Starbucks Peppermint Mocha. The coffee didn’t remedy my broken heart, but it showed the distance she’d go to make me happy.
People who surpass expectations are more than acquaintances. They value you enough to put in the effort to be awesome friends. Don’t always expect a free Starbucks waiting for you in the morning, but those who go out of their way to help you are people you need in your life.
Fake: Doesn’t Listen
The unwritten friendship contract commits you to being part of a support network. In a new environment with new people, you should find those you can rely on and trust. It guides and keeps you emotionally sane through the confusion of college.
If people continually demand your attention to their problems, but do not reciprocate that behavior to yours, they don’t regard you as worth their effort. They use you out of convenience; you’re their emotional garbage can. Although it isn’t always fun to listen to others’ anguish, real friends take up that responsibility willingly.
I have a ‘friend’ who always texts me for advice in the form of crying emoticons whenever she has a life crisis. Once I’ve provided my 19-year-old wisdom, I reveal my own current struggles. I usually receive, “That sucks. I’m sorry.” Better than a “kk,” I guess. Let’s just say I no longer provide essays of assistance.
Real: Allows You to Be Yourself
When you arrive to college, nobody knows or cares about your high school identity. You can become the better person you always wanted. And while self-improvement is healthy, never force reinvention. If you feel the need to transform yourself from a level 80, shiny Pokémon master to a muscled jock, you don’t belong.
Friendships thrive on similar senses of humor, values and interests. Find those, and you’ve got a friend. Not everyone is compatible, and that’s okay. It’s simply impossible to get along with everyone. Next time you force conversation with a potential friend, politely ditch him to train your Pokémon for the second round of the Elite Four.
Fake: Uses You as a Last Resort
Summer fun only lasts so long. People leave and the crew of fifteen dwindles down to three. That’s when my ‘close friend’ breaks her month-long silence. Suddenly, she inundates me with requests to hang out and upsetting comments that I haven’t talked to her in “sooo long.” Should I assume my weekly texts weren’t ignored and simply disappeared into thin air? Definitely not.
I know she contacts me as a last resort. Everyone else is gone and suddenly I gain significance. You aren’t the last thought on a real friend’s mind. You’re a constant part of her life.
Real: Enjoys Silence
There’s one way to pass the real friendship test: feeling comfortable enough for silence. When meeting a person for the first time, we usually feel inclined to fill silence with random comments because silence is awkward.
On the other hand, when you’re with someone whom you know well, you derive satisfaction from just being in each other’s presence. I spend most of my free time sitting in silence with my roommate. She watches movies and I plant crops as a farmer in Harvest Moon. We do our separate activities, but by being beside one another, we enjoy the silence of a bright laptop screen and the tapping of my Nintendo DS.
Differentiating between real and fake friends is simple. If you feel wanted, congratulations, you have a genuine friend. If you feel neglected and used, you need to stop allowing yourself to be manipulated. It’s hard to write people off when you developed relationships with them. But in the long run, having a mutual friendship is the healthiest option.
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